Hearts of Purple: The To Do List

• Identify your partner’s use and level of force so that you can assess the risk of physical danger to you and your children before it occurs.

• Identify safe areas of the house where there are no weapons and there are ways to escape. If arguments occur, try to move to those areas.

• Keep weapons like guns and knives locked away and as inaccessible as possible.

• Don’t run to where the children are, as your partner may hurt them as well.

• If violence is unavoidable, make yourself a small target. Dive into a corner and curl up into a ball with your face protected and arms around each side of your head, fingers entwined.

• If possible, have a phone accessible at all times and know what numbers to call for help. Know where the nearest public phone is located. Know the phone number to your local shelter. If your life is in danger, call the police.

• Let trusted friends and neighbours know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal for when you need help.

• Teach your children how to get help. Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner. Plan a code word to signal to them that they should get help or leave the house.

• Tell your children that violence is never right, even when someone they love is being violent. Tell them that neither you, nor they, are at fault or are the cause of the violence, and that when anyone is being violent, it is important to stay safe.

• Practice how to get out safely. Practice with your children.

• Plan for what you will do if your children tells your partner of your plan or if your partner otherwise finds out about your plan.

• Change your PIN and passcodes for email address, online banking, and all social media accounts including Microsoft and Google. It would be better to close your Facebook account, the question I ask our clients is, do you trust everyone on your Facebook page?????? If you must have an account start a fake profile and put a picture of an animal/flower on it. Only have the people you know you can trust.

• Change your phone number. You need to reset your phone to factory settings. This will remove any spyware on your phone and always turn off locations and hotspot.

• Set up new email address for everyone in the family.

• If you have a computer and the curser starts moving around as if someone is doing it you will need to create a new cyber fingerprint and use a new computer as any file you re-introduce could have spyware on it.

• You need to start locking down your files with government departments. Starting with the RTA (road and transport authority) so no one can excess your address from your rego.

• SPER”s (state penalties Enforcement Registry) They provide this service.

• MyHealthRecords – MyGov account please go in and change your password or opt out so the perpetrator does not receive notification about you and the children.

• Any company you do business with government or not you ask the question, “can you guarantee me that no one in your company can access my file and get my address”. Inform them that you are in domestic violence and are living in hiding. If they can’t guarantee it, don’t give your address.

• You can go into the Post Office with your DVO and get your mail redirected up to a year. This can be repeated each year until DVO expires.

• REMEMBER to TURN OFF location settings on all APP’s such as Find My iPhone, What App, Snapchat, ect

• In an event of an emergency, hit your iPhone power button 5x quickly and it will call 000.

• Get legal advise as soon as you can in regards to children.

• Seek counselling – DVPC…. if you can’t access this service you can get a mental health plan from your GP for counselling.

• Always have photos of the perpetrator at work, schools, show the neighbours and any other place you spend time at.

• Take all important documents with you including birth certificates, marriage certificate, passports ect.

• If you have family sharing on your devices your ex partner can see emails, text messages and share photos.

If you have multiple family members or friends using the same account as your, then have them get their own Apple ID’s and iCloud accounts. If you mean you want shop the sharing between all your devices, then on any one device.

1. Open the Settings app

2. Select your name at the top of the screen and then choose Family Sharing. If you’re using iOS 10.2 or older go to iCloud> Family instead.

3. Tap your name again and then select Stop Family Sharing.

4. Confirm by tapping Stop Sharing Another way to disable Family Sharing yourself is to leave group. You can do this on your iPhone, iPad, iPod or Mac.

To leave Mac

1. Select the Apple menu and choose System Preferences

2. Choose iCloud and then Manage Family.

3. Select your name and then hit the remove button in the bottom left corner.

4.If you were part of a family Apple Music subscription or a shared iCloud storage plan, you’ll lose access to those.

With Family Sharing disable, no one in your family can share their content until you turn the feature back on (or a new organizer steps in and sets up a new share.)

• Document or injuries, text messages, BREACHES and screenshot all ID caller phone calls.

• Make copies of keys and security tags/swipes and keep in safe place.

• Get into the habit of of checking your outside environment, windows, doors, locks.

• Put a lock on your letter box.

• Make sure when you get in the car LOCK the doors. Get into the habit.

• Always check what cars are in the street when coming and going.

• Get a dash-cam.

• Always take different routes to and from home and work. Change your routine.

• Make a habit of backing the car into the driveway and keeping it fuelled. Keep the driver’s door unlocked and others locked — for a quick escape.

• Try not to wear scarves or long jewellery that could be used to strangle you.

• Create several plausible reasons for leaving the house at different times of the day or night.

• If you do not have a DVO get one. Can be done by police or privately.

• If you have children please seek legal advice.

REMEMBER CALL 000 if in danger.

DON’T GET INTO IT WITH THE PERPETRATOR. DON’T BELIEVE WHAT THEY SAY.

In the beginning of May 2019 Google began rolling out a feature that will automatically delete some of the data it has on you after either 18 months or after 3 months.

KEY POINTS

• Google began rolling out a feature this week that will automatically delete some of the data it has on you after either 18 months or after 3 months.

• This means it won’t have any data from before that time, and it will continue to automatically delete any private information that’s older.

• We’ll show you how to turn this on to stop Google from saving all of your web and app activity. Google will roll out additional controls this year. Now, you can tell Google to automatically delete personal information after three months or 18 months. Here’s how you can do that.

• Visit myaccount.google.com and log in if you haven’t already.

• Choose “Data & Personalization” on the left-side panel.

• Select the arrow next to “Web & App Activity.”

• Choose “Manage Activity.”

• Select “Choose to delete automatically.”

• Select either 18 months or three months.